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Are You Ready for Change?

Are you Ready for Change

Have you ever made a New Year's resolution that you kept? Not many of us do. In fact, making lasting change is hard. We get frustrated and lose our momentum. We might not see the results we want soon enough so we convince ourselves it's not going to work. To make lasting change, you need to be prepared and anticipate challenges. It may be helpful to have someone like a counselor who can encourage you as well as work through any blocks.

People benefit from mental health counseling only when they are willing to make a change in their lives and recognize that their current behaviors are not conducive to healthy living. Before scheduling an appointment, it may be helpful to ask yourself what it is you want to change and identify specific goals.

Why Is It Hard to Change? 

People sometimes become accustomed to negative habits without realizing the impact on their mental and physical well-being. For example, smokers may logically know that cigarettes come with a risk of cancer, but they may not think that it is hurting them. Their family may complain about the smell or express concern for their well-being, but it is still hard to quit. 

Others may dread scheduling a counseling session because they don’t believe it will help or don’t want to open up to someone they do not know. After all, therapy can be intimidating, as it requires self-evaluation and honesty with yourself and a total stranger!

People who have experienced traumatic events in their childhood — such as physical and emotional abuse or neglect — may find it extremely difficult to speak openly about the trauma. This frequently leads to mental discomfort as a result of unpleasant recollections of the event.. Because of the reexperiencing of their trauma, some may think they cannot overcome their trauma due to flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance and depressive symptoms. While it may be difficult, change is possible.

That being said, the challenge of taking the first step and going to your first mental health counseling session pales in comparison to the challenges you may experience if you do not go to one. So, take that first step, fight any inhibitions, and understand that help and support is available..

What are the Different Stages of Change?

The road to living a joyful, stress-free life seems to be long and is exhausting. However, once you have the GPS that shows you the quickest and easiest route, you will find that there is light at the end of the tunnel. To that end, these are the five main stages that every prospect who is willing to make a change in their life is likely to go through.

1. Knowing your “why” 

You will never be able to succeed in your endeavors unless you have a compelling purpose to do so. If you start solely because your relatives or friends tell you to do so, you will quickly find it difficult to maintain consistency. To avoid falling into this trap, it is critical that you first understand why you are trying to make a change in your life in the first place. Whether it is because you are aware of the negative consequences of your current behaviors or because you want to attain your long-term goals, you should have one motivator that keeps you going.

2. Accepting the faults

As we previously stated, in order to take the first step toward a better life, you must first recognize that the life you are currently living is not ideal! In other words, you must recognize that there are some things in your life that are no longer working — these can be anything like  like alcoholism, substance abuse, binge eating, or impulsive shopping. The key to making corrections is to accept that you need improvement.

3. Being ready for change

Now that you have decided to bring about a change, own it. This means that you have to understand that transformation will only come when you take some actionable steps. In other words, following the current routine will yield no real results. Disrupting your current lifestyle and adopting some positive habits is a crucial part of bringing about some real change in your life. So, you cannot be passive about this endeavor — you have to be an active participant. After all, it is only you who will benefit in the end, not your therapist. 

4. Looking for a change catalyst

Leaving your current negative addictions and introducing new habits in your life can be a demanding task and requires supervision and guidance — you cannot do it all alone. You need encouragement whether that is a friend, support group, or a professional. By having a support system in place, you will have others who believe in you and can encourage you to take the right route, identify and overcome triggers, and bring change to your life. Sometimes doing it alone will result in relapsing back to where you were. 

5. Celebrating the success

After taking consistent action that you have decided along with your counselor and support system, you should see tangible results. You may even be surprised to see you are living a life you have always wanted to — free from traumatic flashbacks or bad habits. This would be the right time to celebrate your victories and keep adhering to the positive manners you have learned along the way.

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Our counselors at RDU Counseling for Change have years of experience helping people with a wide range of problems. When you reach out for help to our expert counselors, you can rest assured that you are in safe hands and a judgment-free zone. If you have realized that it is high time to schedule a mental health counseling session, all us today at 919-713-0260 or e-mail to take the first step towards a better you!

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